Friday, July 21, 2017

My Mind On Friday, Like...


It is the end of the work week.... sort of.

For mums, there is no minutes, hours, days, weeks, months... no years, really. It's all one long big period of time for us. 




We all know that Friday is one of the most revered days in a work week. I got inspired to do this post off a wine glass that I found at the dollar store (ha ha).


Maybe I should explain this tradition I have with a friend of mine regarding wine glasses.

Every time I, or she, go to a store and we see a wine glass that for some reason is funny or cute or is just to make you feel good kind of motto we buy it and we buy a set of two-- so we each get one. It's a nice little tradition because everybody knows that being a mum can suck sometimes and especially with all the pressures that we have to go through.  


So anyway this particular wine glass last week that I bought said that My Mind on Friday (be like)….


So I was just inspired to kind of write about what Friday means.


Friday in America is usually the end of a traditional 9 to 5 work week. That being said we all know that people work on the weekends right? When you have plumbing issues, wedding planners, etc.


But moreover, being a mum is never a nine-to-five job-- it's always a 24/7 job. The fact I like to joke that there's no such thing as an hour, a day, a week, a month, or even a year. It's just this Big Blob of space and somehow the time continuum is somewhere in that. We just don't see it very often. Like coming up for air after swimming--- but that swimming is life and your to do lists never get done completely, kids are always fussing or doing some activity, and your work-life balance is more like a teeter totter.


So when I sit back in thinking, "oh yeah, it is Friday!" I was thinking about what did I do this week.

1) I sent my son to camp this weekend 

With the heat that has happened this week, which has rivalled some unbearable heat here in the district, we have been cooped up in the house for most of the week. The kids didn't mind because they could play video games and me get some work done. But at some point, I got to kick my kids outside, farther than the back yard.

2) Blogging This Week:

I got some many things done in my ongoing updating of my pages above! Of course, working to promote and market as well is a lot of work-- more than most people realise. But, you care about the posts, right? Here they are.

This Post- (duh)
Guest Post/Recipe- Coconut Docinhos
Movie Review- Trust Fund
Book Review- When Parenting Isn't Perfect
Book Review- Creating Calm in the Midst of Crazy



3) Well here's the other things I did this week, which wasn't all that exciting:
* I worked
* I blogged (a lot)
* I sent off the request for my records from foster care to help me write this book I am writing (and I may be writing on the process for requesting for those that are interested).
* I talked to my family on the West Coast
* I became a moderator for a Cub Scout volunteer group of over 4,000 people
* I became a moderator to a bloggers group of 17,000+ people.
* My son had Boy Scouts-- he helped one of the boys with their Eagle earlier the week then his weekly meeting then camping-- Boy Scouts is a worthy commitment and we love it
* I had Girl Scout leader business
* I applied for more jobs
* I cleaned, and then cleaned again and again and again--- now, I know why mums love school... ha
* I cooked homemade meals and did not eat out once this week
* Got my kids signed up for soccer in the fall
* Got my kids state testing schedule put in
* I allowed myself to sleep in because it's the summer and I don't have to homeschool
* I started this new self-regulation system where I check in with myself every day about making sure that I'm making the most of my time (may write a blog post on this later, depending how it goes)
* I danced a lot which I need to do for my own well being
* My kids had a really chill week playing video games because it was atrociously hot outside
* The family went to the dentist
* A lot of appointments were made

* I had an incredibly hard week for other reasons I really can't put on the blog but it was really hard for me
* Knocked off a ton of to do list things, which I am impressed by

3) Throughout the separation, I have had hard times, so it's good to note that because that is pure reality and honouring that is important- knowing I am getting over a H.U.G.E. heartbreak. Last week there were milestones that I hit and that my ex and I hit. Let's put it this way, it hit me like a ton of bricks-- because no matter what, it hurts every time. But there is a way forward and there is two paths (maybe more) that can be taken and right now, moving forward period is a good thing. You can go to my separation series too, to see some posts on it. 

4) Lots but not much-- because in mum speak, that is very little


Needless to say, I didn't do all that much but I got a lot done in the same process because I just had this balance between my to do list and taking a break before things really get kicked up for the start of the school year which automatically creates more work for me and any other mom.


SO IF YOU ARE A MUM....
I'M GIVING YOU PERMISSION TO LOOK BACK AT YOUR WEEK AND TO SEE ALL THE THINGS THAT YOU'VE DONE AND HONOUR THAT NO MATTER HOW LITTLE OR HOW MUCH YOU DID YOU WERE A MUM AND YOU DESERVE YOUR FRIDAY.


So get that glass of wine and toast to yourself.


* You kept kids alive this week
* You worked hard to provide for your kids
* You worked
* You got some of your to do list alive
* You ended the week with some sanity in tact


To be honest with you, it's been really hard because I'm balancing my separation with my current life and what I'm trying to accomplish. So sometimes things feel like they going to overdrive because you are simply in limbo waiting for something to happen on either end and knowing that it is hard because there is only so much you can do.


This Friday I give myself permission to do the following:


* Send one kid off to camp, so he can have fun and my other two get some more down time and play dates this weekend

* Allow me to dance unequivocally without shame to rebalance myself
* To allow my daughter to give me a tattoo in permanent marker somewhere probably on my arm... hopefully none of my face.


* To acknowledge that I did more this week and I did last week and that I am doing a darn good job at when I am doing right where I'm at.


* To allow myself to dream about the future in ways of seeing where I can go and where there is potential.


* To finally be okay with spending time cleaning my room and not just clean up after my children.

TO LOVE BEING A MUM WHERE I AM AT & KNOW THAT I AND YOU, ARE GOOD MUMS IN OUR OWN RIGHT! 

May your weekend be beautiful and restorative!  


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