Tuesday, December 20, 2016

The Five Love Languages for Teenagers

I have the book for kids, 5 Love Languages for Kids by Gary Chapman, but seeing how I have kids soon entering teenage-hood, this seemed like a good book to review.

We all express ourselves different and expecting to have others understand your love language isn't always as hard as we think it is. For example, you may express love with hugs. Therefore you are a person who appreciates touch as an expression of love. For others, it's a gift. For another, affirmation of things they are doing right. 

The Five Love Languages for Teenagers, Raising pre-teens and teenagers, Book Review, Via Bella, Teenagers, How to love your teen, Gary chapman, Moody Publishers, MP Newsroom, Northfield publishing

So understanding your love language and that of the people you are trying to love is super important. 
It takes conscious effort to be able to say that you will work hard to show love to your child in a way that is understandable to them. 

I found that I wish they had put the quiz at the front of the book not the back. It seems completely counter intuitive to me this way. Like you would get less out of the book with the quiz that this whole book is based off of with it being in the back. So do that first than read the book. 

Best yet, I am going to do the test on my own to see how well I know my kids and then take it with them by my side. I am sure this is going to be an eye opener for me to be able to realise that as well as I know my kids, sometimes there are things I don't know. 

One can even say there is great parenting advise even beyond the five love languages presented. One concept that was interesting to me and so true is that if children, teens specifically, aren't given the space to excercise the muscles of arguing with you or talking openly about sensitive subjects, they will go else where. What a scary thought in some ways but also ironically liberating. We aren't the only factor in our children's lives. We must watch them and guide them as they grow into independence.

While I am reading this, even before I get to the ways we can show love to our kids, I see ways not that I have necessarily failed as a parent but ways that I can do better. This is even before getting to the meat of the book. There is something to be said for that!

My hope is that by reading this I can raise more independent self conscious but world conscious citizens and kids. That they know that they are loved no matter what their life choices are. And they really are. And in the midst of it, and most importantly, not lose my cool as a parent. Because as a parent, this is the hardest, by far the hardest, battle we experience. Being able to keep a level head when you are a heart-on-your-sleeve kind of person already makes it hard to parent without blurting how exactly how you feel whether intentional or not. It is sitting down and understanding why they don't want to do their math just as much as it is helping them with it.

Parenting isn't easy but this book helps you understand at the very core of a lot of problems is something that is easily solvable that we need to get back to the root of.

There is very little that is arguable about this book honestly. It is forthright and super helpful.

I hope to be able to do a giveaway at some point for this book, because the series really is something EVERY parent should have. It will change how we view parenting.

I would easily give this book 🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅. 

*I received this book from MP Newsroom in exchange for my honest review- the opinions are my own* 

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