Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Strengths Based Marriage

Why, would I, a separated mother, being reading a book on strength based marriage?

I choose this book to review because as in anything and everything in life you can learn from what has been (the past) and what will be (the future).

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With marriage, nothing is either right or wrong. Well, sort of. This is meaning, that no one in any given relationship is one hundred percent right or one hundred percent wrong. That is simply not how human relationships exist.

So I was hoping to be able to read this book and apply it to many things in all my relationships.

I was very disappointed that it took a long time for the book to get here and also to find out that the test they write this book on or about, The Gallup's Strength Finder 2.0 Assessment, is not available or even hinted on in this book. It makes it harder to read.

It doesn't mean that you won't get anything out of the book, because you will. It also means that some of it may become lost on you if you have not read the assessment or taken it.

You can think of this as a guide to after you take the assessment with your partner.

The nice thing that you can get out of this book is the ability to learn to recongise your strengths and your partner's strengths. Allow each yourself and them to be able to grow in those strengths as very few people share your same strengths in the same order that you do in this world. We all have an important role to play.

Even goes on to talk about your strength, although usually always good, can have a dark side. So for example, Allan talks about Achiever as one of his strengths. Than someone else talks about how he doesn't make much time for others. There are always two sides of the coin and it's important to be aware of both and be able to make a balanced decision.

I don't know that I would necessarily call this a book on marriage but it definitely talks about relationships. I think it definitely is geared towards marriage and that is good and well. However, it is important to note, that these results can better any relationship you have with any person.

Even further, if you want to self search on yourself and how to build you up, this can help as well. A great example is Allan talking about his achiever strength. The fact that if he let others' views get to him about how he doesn't make time that others want for them, then he is going to pull back all together and not focus on building his strength. He doesn't want to achieve at the expense of a bad reputation. But the funny thing is, that in the end, conforming only will hurt him.

It is interesting how that happens. We care what others think. No matter our strengths and weaknesses. Whether we say it out loud or keep it to ourselves.

I think the title of this book is wildly mislabeled. I think they need to include parts of the actual assessment or even include it as part of the book in totality so people can really have a change in their hearts, minds and lives. Rather than this feeling like it is this marketing effort and all this great material to push you to buy the test. Which is what it feels like honestly.

I give this book 🎅🎅🎅 out of 5 (because of the lack of included assessment).

* I was given this book by the publisher in exchange for my honest review * 

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