I am a very pissed mama and woman right now!
If you say media has not gotten to you...it very obviously has! It has gotten to everyone!
Speaking of social media-This really needs to be shared so please share after you read!
I think that throughout a person's life, they have heard at one point or many points comments from other people based on their weight or looks. It is wrong! Let me say that now!
I was sparked to write this post after being fed up-- finally, just really seriously, fed up-- of people around me or myself getting negative body image comments from those that they know and love or complete strangers about their weight or looks that were healthy and beautiful!
So you think I am fat?
~> I am a size 6-10 depending on who makes the bottoms.
~> I am a size S-M in shirts.
~> I have gone down in bust size (after having kids).
It is SO hard to hear that someone thinks your fat-- especially when it comes from someone you know and love, whether a friend, sister, mother, husband, brother, father. And especially when it is not not something you can change because otherwise you would be skin and bones and start developing diseases and cancers.
I may not have the highest of self esteems or self confidence (and this does not help), but I am not taking this one laying down or lightly. I have been told this many times in my life by many different people- that I am fat. I need to lose weight. I am ticked. I am ticked for me. I am ticked for all women around the world who have enough of this bullshit trying to please people that we don't need it from those that are the closest to us.
Honest criticism is fine and encouragement is fine. If it is needed, I completely understand it. If the person's health was affected by their weight or you were just encouraging someone to lose weight for their benefit, fine. BUT... It is NOT okay to expect your sister, mother, partner, wife, friend, whoever to be a freaking size 0. That is unrealistic and unhealthy.
Here is what I think of that!
~> I am not overweight.
~> I exercise daily.
~> I am running after kids all the time.
~> I walk everywhere if I can, instead of taking the bus or driving. We are talking sometimes 6 miles in a day! (Now, I would like to get outside even more, but sometimes it's not possible).
Men/Partners/Husbands
~> You can not both love curves and expect your sister/partner/wife to be a size 0! That is contradictory, rude, and not progressive at all.
~> Those beautiful bodies you enjoy also give life. They change and the grow just like yours. And unlike yours, they grow human life and go through tremendous sacrifice for another human being-multiple times usually.
~> You are hating the very body that gave you life by expecting woman to be a size 0! Would you ever insult your mother on her scars or body size?
~> You want sex or love making? Do not make a woman feel less than because she is not a size 0- you would not want to have sex with a stick would you? You want something to grab on to? Treat a woman with respect and her body the same. It is not an object just for your affection. And when you do, bets are your sex life will flourish and be awesome.
~> When you insult her body, you insult your sex life- because your sex life will suffer if you make her feel less than and inferior- then you have no one, no one, to blame but yourself!
~> If you have issues with the weight or body image of your girlfriend, partner or wife, think of this awesome novel concept-- if you stop judging her and start loving her, she will pick healthier habits because she is loved. Some women, will either starve themselves or overeat when they are told they are not good enough (especially in body image- I mean why care if the one you love doesn't think you're beautiful, right?)
~> You make the one you love question If I knew then, what I know now, (like the book I reviewed) and whether they should continue being with you!
Women/Partners/Wives
~> Don't allow your brother/sister/husband/wife to make you feel less than
~> DO try to be the healthiest you can!
~> Don't let it get you the way I did me for many years
~> DO let it roll off your shoulders
~> Don't, please don't, down another woman, either to her face or yourself, for the way she looks. To stop others from doing it, we need to start within ourselves to love ourselves, our sisters, our friends, our mothers.
~> DO empower yourself-- run around naked in your house- LOVE yourself. Support your sister women in letting them know they are beautiful!
~> KNOW your body is a temple, giver of life! It is beautiful and we need to teach our daughters the same!
If you are a guy, and you have someone judging your image, love yourself and take the same advise I give the ladies! Don't let anything tell you who you are!
YOU! Everyone!
~> Know the person sitting next to you on the bus, in the chair next to you, your co worker, a total stranger, may have situations that affect their weight you have no clue about. Don't judge.
~> We should not be afraid to ask a woman if she is pregnant but because people think you are either fat or pregnant, which means we associate the two, so don't ask a woman if she is pregnant unless she is very clearly pregnant.
~> Remember, health conditions can cause people to be over weight.
~> Some people have muscle and lots of it and very little body fat. Don't judge someone "big" for always being fat. (They may just use their muscle to show you...lol)
~> A size 0 is super unnatural and unhealthy. You want a woman or man healthy!
I decided to even take to my Twitter page and my Facebook page asking my readers to be apart of this post!
We MUST encourage each other.
Be Featured on my blog! If you have a comment about #bodyimage -- tweet me @Via__Bella with your thoughts! It may end up on my blog post!
— Via Bella (@Via__Bella) September 28, 2015
@Via__Bella I think it's important that you love yourself. Ultimately, if you don't love yourself, you can't SHARE yourself with any1 else!
— Brittany Irvine (@britatheardit) September 29, 2015
@Via__Bella I think we all (as a society) focus way too much on looks. What about #brainimage ?
— Natalie Hinkley (@nataliemhinkley) September 29, 2015
I am writing a piece on body image. Please answer the following:a) What is something you have struggled with?b) What...
Posted by Via Bella on Monday, September 28, 2015
Here is one from the Google+ responses too!
A. Depression and Anxiety, B. Becoming more fit and healthier- physically and mentally, C. Controlling my Depression and Anxiety with exercise, D. Use positive affirmations and positive thinking- refocus on what you like most about yourself.
I wrote a blog post a while back about my Happy Journal and I've found it forces me to think positive when I wouldn't otherwise. Thinking positive is super powerful.
http://www.diydanielle.com/2012/11/happy-journal.html
I wrote a blog post a while back about my Happy Journal and I've found it forces me to think positive when I wouldn't otherwise. Thinking positive is super powerful.
http://www.diydanielle.com/2012/11/happy-journal.html
Other Bloggers on Body Image!
~> Ditching Adulthood--"Body Modification Hypocrisy"
~> Everyday Creative-- "Standing Up to the Bully in the Mirror"
~> The Femmeinist-- "Embrace Your Flaws"
~> Celtic Celiac -- ""Body Image & Celiac Disease-a New Thought?"
~~> Britney Garner -- "Why I Include Hair and Makeup"
I leave you with this and encourage you to take a very deep reflection on yourself!
What you see on the outside does not change what is on the inside. Remember that!
(Yes, I love me some Disney, and this rings true.)
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