Sunday, March 27, 2016

What does it mean to have "The Emotional Edge"?

I can tell you that not do I relate to some of this woman's story but you can tell already this is going to be a good book. The introduction was good I did not even realise that it was the introduction.

There are three amazing types of women personalities we hold. The Mother, The Adult, The Child. The mother is selfless, giving, and protective. The child is selfish, fearful, serving the wants of only self. The adult is the integration of the best of both the mother and the child to fully form the empowered form of self.

Something very potent and something I certainly don't remember deciding was this:
"By the time you were five years old, you'd made decisions about how lovable and worthy you were, how best to survive in this world, and what life would give back to you."

She talks about how we develop this script in our heads very early on in childhood about us and how we relate to the world. It somehow plays on auto when we don't notice and dictates what we do.

In this book she uses deep and long founded psychology to back up her claims, which I actually appreciate. She even ties it into how we have forgotten the woman in these archetypes we try so hard to define or identify with.

She talks about the difference between emotions and feelings. She describes different personalities within each archetype so you can not only understand more about you but about others around you.

What does it mean to have "The Emotional Edge"?, Crystal Andrus, Crystal Andrus Morissette, Self Help, Personalities, Emotions, Feelings, Blogging for Books, book review,


TAKE THE QUIZ- WHAT IS YOUR EMOTIONAL TYPE?

I just got taking it and it says I am Adult Archetype. We will see what that means... Let's flip some pages...Yet, I feel I failed it... twice and I did it online, not the same answers.  First time it says I was like Julia Roberts. The second time I was like Oprah Winfrey. I think because I can sway between both the Child and Parent Archetype. I am a very fun kid like personality but at the same time I have sacrificed so much for the sake of others. I have been working a lot on self growth though and maybe that is why it shows that? I don't know. I definitely feel there is so much to learn. The reason I say I feel I failed it was because by her definition she says that the Adult archetype is what we should look forward to and grow to and I know or want to grow more into that. I feel that I am, so maybe I am more evolved than I think? Ha ha.

Some of the other highlights in the book are such:

I love the releasing your triggers go through on page 135. I think no matter what, whether or not you possess the traits of someone who is or is not easily triggered, this can help. After all triggers are felt and not always seen!

1) Who is triggering me?
2) What triggers me?
3) How does it make me feel to be around someone who makes me feel this way?
4) Who acted this way growing up to me? Is there another reason behind the trigger?
5) When do I remember acting this way myself?
6) How does it make me feel to be called the same thing?
7) How have I overcompensated?
8) How has that hurt me?
9) Can I accept people for where they are at?
10) Can I accept the next time someone acts that way?
11) Can I forgive the person who created this trigger for me?
12) Can I forgive myself for acting in the same way?
13) Say "I am _________" (whatever the problem is until you are at peace.

I like once you can get release those triggers that you can find yourself in a better communication pattern. Assertive communication. What is assertive communication? She says it perfectly: "assertive communication means having the courage to look at yourself and at the bigger picture and articulate your needs with clarity confidence and composure."

She goes through some of the feelings and really doing a self reflection on shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, pride, courage and willingness.

She also goes through how to be self accepting by making us asking ourselves questions. Some of which go something like this... Do I accept myself even with others don't? Do I accept my body? How do I accept others?

She goes through how to set boundaries. I like the list on page 250's to really say NO to ourselves! No more accepting less. No more not doing something for ourselves. No more weighing self. No more talking negative to or about self. Also, LOVE yourself.

The big issue I have with the list that she gives though is that it is stuff like buying yourself lingerie, because you know, that is not superficial. I get loving yourself and all, but what about things like, I don't, sleeping in?! Wait, let me go take a nap... I need to love myself right now... ZZZ. Ha ha.

Some Amazing Take Aways:
One thing I like about this book is the ability to take the choice to take back power. I do feel the book is lengthy sometimes but good. I think it is not a light read. It is a book you delve completely into.

This is ME! I need to work on me just as much as I want to help others. I can do both but has to be at the same time. Not separate. I like this book for giving some good ideas. What are you doing for yourself to grow and what are you doing for the world to grow?


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