Your Money, Your Marriage: The Secrets to Smart Finance, Spicy Romance, and Their Intimate Connection

Your Money, Your Marriage. It's the tag line that gets you though really...

"The Secrets to Smart Finance, Spicy Romance, and Their Intimate Connection"

When you think about most people now, even around the world, finances are not just not often talked about, they are put on the back burner... including the debt that comes with it. Meaning that we accrue a lot of debt that is unnecessary and create strive in our lives over it. Rather than living more meaningful lives.

Some of the questions they try to tackle are:

1- What is Financial Foreplay?
2- What did you say? From Different books to same pages.
3- Did you say Divorce?
4-  Who leads your life?
5- Who's the boss?
6- Where's that at again? Scattered to Organised.
7- What are you missing? From fear of missing out to love of showing up
8- Whose the centre of your marriage?

The idea of this book and the goal of the authors is to help couples to get on the same page in regards to finances and to overcome stereotypes associated with them.

The chapter I am not going to lie about heading straight for, is the divorce one. Yup. I am there. But certainly the reason for divorce is not finances. It is other things. So facing them head on, is going to be important. It one thing that has lead to stress in my body, mind, soul and especially my heart. So being realistic about it is going to be super important for me. I am done with the touchy feeling stuff because i have been there for far too long.

Holy crap-- like really? I am stunned but this book reading it.

Not only is it an easy read, it is PACKED with AMAZING HELPFUL INFORMATION that will help you no matter who you are.

When I was reading the chapter on divorce, for example the five things that Brian says are important in a marriage, are to me as well and made me feel soooo much more about peace about who I am not only as a person but also who I was as a wife-- even in the screw ups.

These were:
* Your spouse before everything else
* Your marriage is more important than money
* Love trumps winning an argument any time
* Moving toward your spouse in your finances moves you closer to them
* Your example speaks louder than harsh words

It was really that last one, for me... I have always acted by way of my heart, which usually is always love, even if I am upset, but I have been known to say some harsh things in the past. Let's say I have learned to do better now that I am not practically a teen. Ha ha.

I really like how this book is written and even more that there are so many practical tips in it. The one downside to this book, which is a biggie for me (but won't affect the rating of what I feel, promise) is that it's not hard cover. All those times people will re read this book and it's going to be getting frayed and banged up so much faster. Ha ha.

I give this book a 5 out of 5.

Book Description

God’s vision for your marriage is far more than mediocre, and money and sex are two of the most common tension points. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

In Your Money, Your Marriage, Brian and Cherie Lowe offer straight talk and power principles for getting your finances back on track so you can get back to your romance. Take it from them—the Lowes worked off $127,000 in debt in just four years, and emerged not only financially free but better together.

Join Cherie, personal finance blogger at Queen of Free, and Brian, family law attorney who’s seen it all when it comes to marital money struggles, in this journey to help you and your spouse go from different books to the same page. Through candid and hilarious stories, fresh ideas and practices, and a few winks along the way, Brian and Cherie reveal the secrets to “financial foreplay” able to help every couple thrive together in finance and romance alike.

You’ll learn how to:

Develop “passionate patience” with each other toward a shared financial goal
Identify unhealthy financial habits
Save smart on date nights
Sort through misaligned expectations as a couple
Beat the comparison game
Cultivate a stronger relationship on a budget of zero dollars

Couples share much more than a bank account or even a bedroom—they share a sacred union. Imagine what your marriage could be if you could put cash conflict behind you. Your Money, Your Marriage is an invitation to find out, and to thrive together.