Thursday, December 22, 2016

You Can Help Me Find My Siblings for The Holidays This Year

Okay....  * deep breaths * This year for Holiday Season, I could use Your Help... 

You Can Help Me Find My Siblings for The Holidays This Year...

It's one of the presents I want for Christmas/this holiday season. In fact, one that I have wanted for a long time now.

It's never with 100% certainty or conviction that one shares so deep an issue or wish. I am scared. I am excited. I am anxious. Yet, I will not allow that to stop me one bit. Nope. I am going to allow my heart to lead here from now on as much as I can. This is something I am learning in my life and I need to do more often. If you know me, you may think this is ironic of me because I am a 100% wear my heart on my sleeve, hopeless romantic kind of person. However, the worry of "what isn't" is stopping me from continuing forth and I need to lead more a life without fear.

Taken at an orphanage- I don't even remember this picture or seeing my sibs here
This is not something I would normally share on my blog. I want to maintain my identity as my own person and completely separate from what I went through growing up. If you have ever been a foster child, you know the stigmas that come with it. I have fought very hard my entire life to overcome them. However, it is apart of who I am but it does not define me. And honestly. there still is so many missing puzzle pieces from my life that I am still trying to put together. This is one of them.

And if you are friends or family, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE FAMILY!!

Finding them doesn't mean you are any less family to me. However, my heart is big enough not only for everyone now but to find the missing parts of my family.

My Younger Brother:
Born as::: 
Name: Robert Thomas Wilder
Birth Date: 15 April 1988
Birth Place: Sonoma, California

My Younger Sister:
Born as:::
Name: Elaine Eleanorwalli Wilder
Birth Date: 1 August 1989
Birth Place: French Camp, California

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I know my siblings, Robert and Elaine, are out there somewhere. Whether they go by those names anymore after they were adopted or not, I am not sure of. But I don't know them and I want to know them. I am their older sister. It's in my blood, so to speak, to want to find them.

Imagine not knowing your siblings growing up... even if they pestered you and annoyed you. No matter how much you would say you wish you didn't have a brother or sister, one of my wishes when it comes to my siblings is that I knew mine.

You see, my siblings and I were separated fairly young.

We were all taken away from our parents very young and placed in foster care. We were separated in pairs. So me and my sister Leena, were taken together and put in foster care together. While we spent part of our foster care time together, it was not but a small blimp of time that we spent together. I remember us having the chicken pox together. That must be what did us in... Hahaha. Just kidding. But she was later adopted and I was not. This was mostly for medical reasons (my birth defect). 

 Then my two younger siblings I can only assume were the same way and placed together.

All I know about my siblings is that Robert was deemed failure to thrive at some point. When we were taken away and in state custody is my guess. I am pretty sure he is taller than me now... why does the eldest get the short (literally) end of the stick? Ha.  I would love to be able to compare pictures of Robert growing up and my youngest, because I swear, in this picture, the resemblance is very strong. They are related after all! 

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Elaine was born with curly brown hair while the rest of us were blondes.I would love to be able to tell Elaine how I named her niece after her and the great grandmother on the other side. How that name is carried on. Whether it is her adopted name now or not, she is still and always has been part of my thought process when it comes to family.

I would love to give them both hugs and be able show them love as a big sister and embrace them as family. Maybe they prefer hand shakes or a high five? Who knows. I know they have a new family now that is all their own and it has been that way for decades. I know this. I would hope to be able to be part of their lives as well as a sister.

In fact, this is a moment I have been wanting to start for a long time. I have been wanting to go on this journey to find my siblings for as long as I can remember. It has become part of my dreams for years. And what is to say if you don't chase them in reality that they may not come true?

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I have been through some unspeakable things in my life... but that is the past! It makes me stronger and makes my family that much more valuable. 

No matter what family is family and the past is the past.

While we can learn and grow from it, we only have up to go. We only have the future to look forward to and that is what I'm hoping to build by finding everyone in my family that I have been missing growing up.

It's like a gift that keeps giving!

It's not only a gift for myself it's a gift for them (my siblings and my family) and it's a gift for my kids.

Knowing part of who you are is incredibly important thing for each person in their life no matter what that looks like.

Sometimes it takes not having your family around to really be able to appreciate who they are and love them for where they're at. Even when you don't know them yet. Maybe this is one reason I consider those I become close to family no matter if they are family or friends. Because in the end, we are family. 

Finding my sister my brother would mean the world to me.

I would be able to present them with an incredible gift that as broken as a gift it might be it would be an incredibly precious gift that one would hope for. That is, all of who I am and the jagged little puzzle pieces that I can hand them to help them complete answers they may have about who they are and where they come from. Sometimes, those jagged little pieces can be the very things that help things make sense to us in our worlds.

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Growing up the way that I did = My family is that much more important to me. 

If you are a very close friend or even a friend to me you are family. This is not a life sentence, I promise, ha ha, it's a life blessing.

We are all one family in the end but being able to find the family that gave you life no matter where you come from means that you are able to know more of who you are as a person and more of where you're going. This does not mean that you're  any less of yourself. To find this missing piece, means that you are allowing yourself to be open to every possibility of who you are.

I want to finally make one of my many dreams literally come true of finding them and being reunited with my two younger siblings. I have talked about the moment over and over again for the last couple years said at this point my life it is just time to try to make this happen. I have had dreams of the momentous occasion... now, let's see if that can be a reality. 

That is where you my reader can come in and you can help make this dream a reality for me. You can share this post and hopefully one of them or both of them will see this and I will be able to find them and I will be able to see them with my own two eyes. I will be able to touch them with my own two hands to give them a hug. I will be able to talk to them and have a conversation with them with my own two lips. Basically, I will be able to love immensely from my heart a piece of me that's been missing. What an amazing blessing that would be!

If you have information, please email me at viabella.thebeautiful @ gmail (dot) com

Even though I haven't done this in the past despite the want and desire to, that there is no time like the present to be able to try to find my siblings and be able to share the gift of the family I have found along the way. I have always had an eager heart that had the desire to find them. However, there is divine timing for all these things. And right now, my heart lead stronger than my fear and I followed.

Thank you in advance for sharing this. 
Thank you in advance for helping.
Here's to a
Merry Christmas,
Happy Hanukkah
Happy Kwanzaa 
& a Magical New Year!

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